Friday, December 24, 2010

I feel guilty...

I feel guilty. For nearly Husband and I's entire marriage, he's worked offshore. Which means there are no guarantees for birthdays, anniversaries, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years. You take what you can get and celebrate everything else before or after his hitch. It's not easy, but obviously it could always be worse. This year, husband was promoted and now works in the office (hence the move to Houston). I feel guilty having all the holidays. I see status updates from friends who will be offshore, or friends with husbands offshore, and it breaks my heart. I know time and a half pay is always nice, but money can't buy time (something I often screamed to myself after husband would drive away to the heliport). Ladies (and men), I just want you to know, I understand. It blows. I keep waiting for husband's cell phone to ring, because it can't be possible that we have all holidays now. My advice? Do it up BIG when he gets home! Take an awesome trip, buy something completely frivolous, lay in bed all day (on a week day!) and laugh at all the suckers working 9-5. Enjoy the holiday season as best you can!

And to everyone else, be grateful! Be grateful that your spouse is home! And have a very Merry Christmas!

2 comments:

H.E.A.T.H.E.R said...

I know what you mean about waiting for the phone to ring! My ex friend, The Driller and I, (well we are still friends, but friends only!) He had to work on Christmas, but he used to always tell me that if he were to get called in for Christmas then he would go in a heart beat. What is it about the oil fields that they love so much?? Its such a different life style!!! But, like you said, DO IT UP BIG when they get home, or before they leave, or BOTH. And, like you said, be grateful that you have them at all, because as we all know, life is too short, and you just never know when it will all change. Hope you enjoyed your Christmas!!!!

Crystal said...

I have started an Oilfield Wives forum. I haven't been an oilfield wife for long, but have found myself searching for a way to connect. I found a Yahoo group, and Facebook groups, but I feel so many posts get lost in the masses of posts with little organization, and that a forum setting would be ideal for sharing. I am just starting it, so I hope all of you will join in and help this forum take off and become a great resource for all of us wives. Please take a look at my site and join:

http://oilfieldwives.createaforum.com/