Monday, May 11, 2009

Wondering...can men and women be friends?

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I used to think it was true, men and women could be just friends, with no romantic feelings (either before or while being friends). Then I thought about my own situation. I have guy friends, but they were either all my husbands friends first, or my guy friends from high school who are all gay. My only guy friend that doesn't fit into this category is my ex, and even there, we dated before being friends. I've been thinking about this, because Jon of the show Jon and Kate Plus Eight, claims that the woman he's been spotted with at 2am leaving the bar as she drove his car, are just friends. Hmmm. I like giving people the benefit of the doubt, but really? I would FLIP if Husband was doing this, especially if I were across the country when it happened. If it was a girl friend of mine giving him a ride home, that's one thing, but there is no indication that that's the case in their situation. Kate is no day at the beach, but no one deserves to be cheated on, assuming that's the case.

But I guess it's possible. Husband had a good friend in high school who was a girl, and there was nothing romantic. My ex has a good friend who is a girl, and says there is nothing romantic. I'm not saying married people shouldn't have friends of the opposite sex, I just can't think of any examples (of married couples). I don't have a group of girlfriends I do things with. I sort of wish I did.

I don't think I'm explaining myself as eloquently as I hoped. I'm just jazzed that the Capitals won tonight.

2 comments:

Sudipta Das .M. said...

No, I don't think so.

Unless of course they have some grave orientation problem or either of them is already hitched.

Later.

Cajunchic said...

I think they can but I think when you are married there has to be a respect issue involved with it. You have to respect your husband/wife enough not to go out with them alone without the other spouse knowing or be out with them at 2 in the morning. That way there is not even the appearance that something is going on. Some things just look bad you know.