Tuesday, January 6, 2009

LOL I just found out I was kicked out of an oilfield wives group on CafeMom. Well, I assume I was, as I recently signed on and no longer a member. I guess they didn't like my blog. Oh come on, I don't think ALL oil field wives are 4 wheeler riding, Toledo Bend camp owning, baby popping machines. This is why I feel so disconnected with women here. Most of my friends are either single or have kids. I cannot identify with either of those categories. But I love them anyway.

3 comments:

Captain Morgan said...

Perhaps you are someone who will finally understand me. I'm from WI and my husband also works in the oil industry. He's gone for 4 weeks at a time. Well lately gone for over a month at a time and only home for two weeks. By the beginning of April he will have spent only 2 weeks at home this year and 4 weeks since the end of October. It gets very depressing and lonely and nobody understands our lifestyle. I get sick of people telling me how I should or shouldn't feel when they have no idea what we go through. Do you have this problem too?

Unlikely Oilfield Wife said...

Oh yes, definitely. I have it a bit better here, as many of the women in this area deal with the same thing, but there are definitely people in my life who don't get it. When visiting my sister in NY this past fall, I realized that she understands very little about how difficult it can be to be alone for weeks at a time. There is a nice group of ladies on Yahoo! groups, The Oilfield Wives, (http://groups.yahoo.com/group/The_Oilfield_Wives/), you should join there. They are definitely women who will understand. If you ever need to talk, I'm here as well. Take care hon.

Captain Morgan said...

I don't know any women in my area of WI who has a husband with a job like mine. My friend from HS who lives about three hours away has a husband who works for a bank and travels a lot. But he's not gone for a month at a time like mine. She's the only person I have who understands.

My friend sent me this link and I thought you might enjoy reading it.

http://www.qrc.org.au/conference/_dbase_upl/2002_spk12_hubinger.pdf

My husband was working in the Gulf for a few years. Then his rig moved to Angola. He left that company and he's currently in the Atlantic making his way to Brazil.